This is a fascinating continuation of an
interaction with DW.
We met at a mutually convenient (or
university library where we would not be
disturbed and could use the resources
The university is between sessions and
thus access is easily available. More
importantly, it forced DW out of his
routine, and into the exploring mode so that
he had several appointments to do after
meeting with me.
In our last conversation, he indicated he
had several things to do. One related to
the extension of unemployment benefits.
It benefits all who are out of normal work.
He learned that he is eligible for 13 more
weeks, if needed. Many others will be
as well. Check with your local
DW met with a colleague we both knew
well. This started a series of conversations
paths, some bore fruit, others didn’t.
(Notice the nature of the note– our
informal agenda, specific topics covered, and
points of value to him, me and everyone else!)
BW, our friend, shared a strong
willingness to help for he had been out of
work 9 months and knew how troubling
this feels. He shared his story and
that he used personal contacts
(networking) to develop the situation
that led to his position with which he is
By doing these things we were lowering
any tension that may have existed before
getting together. Next, we talked about
what did DW really want? He just wanted
to get together based on our previous
conversations and offer. It is hard for
many to put into words, so we just explored
several avenues– his approach to interviews,
his mannerisms, his style. (His resume was
strong. Sure, a couple of minor suggestions
were offered to simplify wording and line up
references that can work for an experienced
person. The point being that his resume
was getting interview results. Focus
on interviewing for improvements.)
In all of these he revealed a tensenss
that gets in the way of his confidence and
ability to get down to business and get things
done. We explored relaxation strategies.
He talked about a self-awareness activity
that he learned that works for him.
This is one of the things he will do now
before an interview. He revealed that he
uses his notebook a little too much,
especially early in a conversation. Rather
than underscoring his attention-to-detail
style, it might reveal to some a lack of
confidence and focus of attention away
from the interviewer. The suggestion
was to look more closely at people’s
nonverbal signals. Seek clarification, but
more importantly, “listen between
He was encouraged to identify his strengths
that were what the job description provided
and communicate evidence with stories
that he had them.
Before the conversation was over,
several other contact names and
LinkedIn were offered to broaden the
THANK YOU NOTE
Before the day was out, DW sent off a pleasant
and professional thank you note. It felt
sincere and appreciative.