This is a situation that happens to nearly everyone at one time in their professional life. Getting different ideas about how to professionally handle it is important in helping each of us cope and move on. Here is a good segment on dealing with a rejection after a job interview from WSJ. http://www.careerjournal.com/jobhunting/strategies/20051129-needleman.html?cipos=home_whatsnew_minor
Source: Rejected by Your Dream Employer? How to follow up to win an offer?
By Sarah E. Needleman WSJ
Passed over for a job you really want? Hold off throwing in the towel just yet.
“If there’s an organization you really want to work for, don’t let your first rejection be your defining moment,” says Shelia Gray, “Continue to pursue the organization.”
Here are four tips for staying on recruiters’ radars for new job opportunities.
1. Keep cool following a rejection.
Being turned down for a job can hurt, but avoid expressing anger or resentment toward recruiters, cautions a general manager at Professional Document Solutions Inc. “Some people almost act like you owe them an apology,” she says. “You never want to tell recruiters that they were in the wrong.”
She recalls an email from a candidate accusing her of making a mistake by not hiring her for a sales position. Up until that point, “I was impressed with the gal and thought about calling her back in a few months if a position opened up,” she says. “But her email took away that chance.”
2. Write a thank-you.
Another hiring manager once received a thank-you from a candidate after he’d been denied a director-of-engineering position at a high-tech firm. “He acknowledged that it would’ve been a great company to work for, but that he understood he was not the right person for the particular opportunity,” she recalls. “Most recruiters remember great candidates, and that letter kept him top of mind.” When another engineering position opened up at the company a few months later, he was invited to interview and was subsequently hired.
A thank-you can help reinforce your strong desire to work for a company.
3. Send friendly reminders.
Keep in touch with recruiters after being passed over for a job, [since in some cases hiring for the] the position was put on hold. One candidate followed up in an email about a month later. Coincidentally, the company was ready to fill the position around that time, and he was offered the job.
In some cases, following up may require several calls or emails over time. One a month is sufficient. Consider showing your determination and confidence.
4. Request feedback.
Following a rejection, ask interviewers for advice on how you could have performed better, suggests the article. That demonstrates a sincere interest in personal development and career progression.
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