When we encounter people and when people encounter you
and I, initial impressions are made. It is subconscious and
as the old saw goes, ‘first impressions are lasting
impressions.’ This entry offers some tips of things to avoid.
Yesterday, we had a successful appointment with a trust
attorney with a firm we had vetted 15 years ago to update our
Revocable trust. It is useful to share why you should consider
creating a trust for your family to manage your assets and
affairs. It is your chance to spell out your desires while you
have the faculties.
During our meeting with the trust attorney, several things
tipped me off to look a little further into the attorney we
met. I learned several things that should be no surprise but
piqued my curiosity…the attorney was a temporary contract
attorney, we met in a “branch” office in a LLC professional
building with a collection of small firms, and there were no other
firm members and staff. What questions should I ask and how
should I professionally explore this “gig” economy reality
in the legal field?
MISTAKES THAT SPOIL A FIRST IMPRESSION
Humblebrag, Hubris, Hypocrisy, [Back-]Handed Compliment
The British Psychological Society listed these four behaviors
that can knock a person down a notch –
(1) humblebrag– ‘I am to busy…’ in a way to avoid or shift
away by implying self importance.
(2) hubris– downward social comparisons; [I recall a post-doc
doing this to me while I was in grad school]
(3) hypocrisy– pointing out someone’s failure that you might be
caught duplicating; politician’s seem to reveal this in a
(4) back-handed compliment– complimenting others puffing
up personal importance.
TRUSTS: LEGAL ENTITIES PROFESSIONALS SHOULD
CONSIDER TO MANAGE YOUR ESTATE
After your professional education and your career begins
other responsibilities accrue to you. Your future, to be sure,
is not certain. You need to think through and provide wisely
for unexpected situations. Trusts are set up for you by
legal counsel to provide for you and your family in cases
where you are not able.
There are several estate planning
vehicles for different
circumstances. We are working on an update to a 15 year
old package that needs to factor in family, law and practical
implementation changes. (we had a simple will at 35,
first revocable trust at 52)
Financial trust attorney recommend providing your choices
LEGAL ADVICE: CONTRACT ATTORNEYS
Legal advice that we pay for is important and requires that
we perform due diligence. To provide legal services to clients
at competitive costs firms substitute contract attorneys
for staff. In many instances I have read people have obtained
the services they sought.
Nonetheless, we need to look into any situation which might
It is important to document the formal employment arrangement
of your attorney and liability insurance coverage at or right
after the first meeting.
Fortunately, I learned our attorney is formally listed at the
firm and covered by all liability and malpractice insurance.
How are you doing? I would like to ask if you have any
experience using electronic labbooks in an R&D lab?
and if there is any in particular you could recommend.
Thank you for any advice you can provide.
When I regularly attended several large conferences I tried
to look into this emerging field by speaking with vendors about
their market penetration and features for different user
Interestingly my deepest learning at this time involved
ensuring legal advice was following in purchasing, training,
and compliance. Maintenance and regular updates for eLN were
essential as this is a emerging and evolving field. Years have
past and eLN are essential tools.
- at least 16 countries are represented as vendor developers
- open source vendors are included in the list
: Different fields and operations will have different requirements
It is nice to have a big picture for what customers, users, legal and
regulatory applications are provided.
- basic functionality
- quality, security and compliance
- data management
eLN decision makin
- The system needs to organize and be able to tag, filter and search entries.
- all entries, imported data, and links can be exported to a generic format
(pdf, zip, xlm, etc.) for backup and reporting as well as allowing a bailout
in case the maker of the software stops development, or your funds to pay
for licence fees run dry.
- support of your IT department at an early stage (selection of particular eLN).
- hidden costs (hardware like server, backup; on-site support and user training, )
What are your customers using? How frequent are updates?
What are the computer requirements and robustness of the system?
These days, eLN are essential to compete
A recent seminar on Overcoming Fears Uncertainty and
Doubts pointed out things you should learn to do while
in graduate school. Two leading ones the group pointed
knowing how to speak with your boss
knowing how to have difficult conversations with people.
These are no doubt situational things and depend on several
factors. That is part of the learning that we need to do. It is
important to develop this understanding while in graduate school.
our conversation about how to speak to a boss
- for a raise and at review time
- after making a mistake
- challenges at home
- have a major health issue
Flipboard shared a creditable piece about having hard conversations
- begin with a perspective of respect and curiosity
- avoiding conversations does not make problems go away
- listen intently, respond with the other’s ideas first, and avoid
partial listening while planning to say what is on our mind
- recognize cultural differences and determine how to be
direct (clear statements, not circular logic).
What do we do when we face a major risk or possible
catastrophe? It is not something that normally comes up
in any but exceptional situations and is the “elephant in the
room.” That is, is not spoken about.
Here are some thoughts to ponder. A following comment
lists some situations and Casandras from Clarke and Eddy’s
book that is good reading, especially if you are interested in
cyber-security, global warming, CRISPR technology and
nuclear weapons and disarmament.
: Sentinel intelligence experts
who sense something
catastrophic before anyone else does, before disaster happens
Whistleblower: popularized by Ralph Nader for informing about
illegal or unethical actions picking up on a much earlier term used to
alert the public about a commission of a crime or a breaking of rules.
Whistleblowers are motivated to do their reporting or announcing by
wanting to do the right thing, or to make right a decision that went
Large federal agencies record whistleblower complaints and are
able to substantiate only a small fraction. Because of the limited
confirmation rate and going against the culture or leadership or actions
of an organization, whistleblowers have a generally poor reputation.
So despite positive ethical motivations we may have going into a
situation, it does not always work out for the best.
concept of warning where an individual strongly feels certain
decisions should be made or certain situations should be avoided.
In Warnings: Finding Cassandras to stop catastrophes they assert
the Greek concept of Cassandra. Cassandra was graced by the
gods to be able to predict the future however cursed with the
response that no one believed or listened to her predictions.
A dozen past and current case studies were discussed in some detail
in a format that provided a view of classifying four features of each
case. They were: (1)nature of the threat or risk,
(2)is the person who needs to act known, knowledgeable, able to sort out
conflicting data and biases,
(3)is the predictor, or Cassandra, well-trained, highly creditable, respected
and confident in their findings and conclusions,
(4)what do the critics rely on and assert about the threat’s imminence.
While preparing for a seminar on Overcoming Challenges and
Adversity, several items are worth highlighting for our blog.
book by the same authors, 2012]
The original idea [for this seminar topic] resulted from
this year’s class suggestion and a seminar by
Think about it. 100 years ago people lived, on average, to
48 years, whereas now it is beyond 78. The length and nature
of careers has and continues to change this life span and equally
important our values and goals.
People seek much more control over their career paths, seek
personal satisfaction [over organizational], pursue advancement
[over organizational commitment] and realize multiple careers.
The seminar will discuss how we need to encourage
- adapting to adversity
and challenges by seeing them as
opportunities to learn useful skills
- developing critical habits, including listening
effectively managing technological tools.