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03/01/15
Weakness: ‘Not doing well enough’ feeling
Filed under: Interviewing, Mentoring, Mature professionals
Posted by: site admin @ 10:57 am

In an exercise, half of a group were asked to present their
strengths and give an example.  While the other half
presented personal weaknesses and what they are doing
about it.

Fear of Public Speaking, Being over-busy, rushed for time,
and less organized, and Shy and challenged to make
decisions were offered as weaknesses.  We have noticed
these and they are each real. 
An interesting one was offered– feeling that whatever
this person does, it is insufficient.  Being vulnerable.
The fear that when we become vulnerable we may be
considered less worthy.

Patrick Wanis and others talk about the broader cases
of this ‘vulnerable perception.’  This was a heartfelt expression
he explains as lacking a strong sense of loving and belonging.

They need to develop courage to be imperfect, accepting
themselves as they are, and be willing to make connections
with people.

The  Brene Brown TED talk elaborates well what can help
in dealing with this vulnerability issue.
What do the “wholehearted do” she asks
   - ask for help
   - take rejection in stride and learn in a organized, forgiving
way
   - be willing to risk failure, loss because of the opportunities
that may result
Know that the emotions connected to these behaviors can
not be “numbed out.” 
Certainty in religion and politics are expressions of this
weakness she adds.

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