Pier Forni has written about dealing with rude behavior.
Saying please, excuse me and thank you are leading items.
There are many good reasons for writing than you notes.
One of them was shared by Richard Desmond that I just
need to share:
“I saw the email about a seminar on writing a cover letter
and something that happened at lunch today made me think
to reach out to you. …I landed an Assistant Professor
position…[in part due to a thoughtful thank you letter.]
We were at lunch today and one of my colleagues mentioned
he was cleaning his desk and found my “thank you” note
from last spring. He appreciated it and was impressed that I
included a detail from our interaction that day. Another colleague
(chair of the search committee) then added it was an easy
decision, as I was the only candidate to send a “thank you.”
[While there were a number of qualified candidates,] but
it did help me make an impression and set myself apart from
The features of a thank you note are that it is a (1) prompt
expression of (2) interest in you, (3) it reveals excellent business
sense, and includes (4) civil follow-up on discussions, tours,
observations and questions.
For interviews: mention your interest in working at the place
where you are being considered.
Make sure that you write it authoritatively showing that you
were there. It is ineffective if it sounds like anyone could have