Let’s be real, “Job clubs,” “buddy systems,” ‘social
networks,” and “networking” are terms relating to
similar functions in a job search. They focus on
the FOUR I’S–
the emerging fourth, ‘internet presence (texting,
etc–. one-to-one, one-to-many, many-to-one).’
Recently, a person asked if she should share all
her job leads with her job-club, buddy-system,
network [you put in the term…]. “My boyfriend
doesn’t think I should, as it will bring in more
competition for the opening.”
My response was: whatever you do will come
back to help or “haunt you”. If you really do want
to network with integrity, share the job leads. Help
each other make the best impressions. Share what
you learn so that each person can benefit. Employment
these days seems more fluid, and it means more than
just going with the flow. Recognize:
Not every position is right for you. Location,
travel and time requirements, responsibilities,
skills required, etc.
You are not the best person for every position.
While you will learn new things, it is equally
important to be challenged and find satisfaction.
You cannot possibly apply for every opening. As
well, consider narrowing down what you seek in
Personality fit, commitment and adapting to
circumstances and needs stand out as behaviors
that lead to success early in one’s career.
Chandlee Bryan emphasizes five strategies.
Please let me “tweak” them–
1 Be selective in friends and colleagues in your
network. It is not as important to have many
names, as it is dependable friends who you can
help. This highlights “Choosing as a skill.”
2. Be a good friend by responding promptly
and studying different segments of the job
market. (Each of you do not have to replicate
the same elements.)
3. Be meaningful by reviewing each others’
documents, offering suggestions and offering
ideas on questions and situations. Share
4. Be Observant on each others’ small things.
Help make each opportunity lead to new ideas
and new successes.
5. Be open and transparent about your goals and
aspirations, as they will be similar and different from
others. Share your evolving needs, desires and
Now, another person then asked what should be done
in the circumstance that a member of her network
got a call back from a screening interview. In the
call back, the interviewer seemed short, demanded
responses without hesitation, and pushed for
specific commitments. This seemed like it was
a ‘bruising’ way to attract a candidate. It may have
been a “stress interview” revealing how the
candidate deals with stress from a higher up or
Think about tactics you might use to defuse the
situation. Learn about what specifically his needs
and time constraints were. Explore items you, the
interviewee, seek in a professional and well
articulated manner. Share this with your network and
use this one call back interview as a lesson for all.